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Bullies? Understanding Bullies?

Na, not in this life.    Let’s ‘understand’ the targets (of bullies) first!

A note on the topic of bullies and understanding them:

“It is sad to see that so many articles are favoring the bullies by first seeking to find out their reason for bullying. Society needs to come to the plate and really first handle the important task of making the  target of the bully feel safe, protected and heard.

Our society has too much emphasis on making bullies feel “heard” .


Let’s listen to the targets, the victims , first and  let the officials, the Deans,  the authorities  or police handle the bullies.  Most seem to forget that most targets are bullied for months or even years before the bullying comes to light . So in a case like that, the target, the victim, the target of the bully really needs to be separated from the bully and the authorities or teachers or those in control of the education systems should take their heads out of the sand and put it on hold a bit as they continue to try to “understand” the bully. I get it that yes, eventually you need to understand the why of it, but not first before putting a space, a distance between the bully and the bully’s target. The school and the officials get it right as they first begin to understand the “target” of the bully rather than trying first to understand the “bully” . There are thousands of people that have had tough lives and yet they don’t resort to bullying. So, as a society, it is not correct to assume that ‘bullies” have a ‘reason’ for bullying. There’s no reason and there are no excuses. This is just another opinion, from a different point of view” . – artfromperry .justbreathe15

In and throughout our school systems and centers there is a theme going on and around. It appears that (some) think that the solution is to understand the bully.

Imagine if you went to court with a murderer — and the victim’s family there — ,  do you think that trying to “understand” the murderer helps the victims or the targets of the murderer?

Somebody needs to come up with  better ideas on handling school and center problems.

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Afternoon Turkeys!

I’d been there a number of times before but, before this I had never, ever seen turkeys there. 

For the most part, I took one of my granddaughters on the road trip to distant place to see the wildlife that lived in the area.    There ere cardinals, bluejays, woodpeckers ,chickadees, sparrows, squirrels, chipmunks, and lots of other animals in the place, in that space.   After about four or five trips there, seeing all the same wildlife, one day I decided to stay later.  This is the first time that e stayed after 4 PM.   Then late in the afternoon, there they ere.    Seven turkeys trotting out of the woods.

Here’s one.    (See picture)

You can go to the same place ten times and still see something different on the eleventh time you go there.  That’s all I’m saying.


You can stand there with your hand out.  Bring “black oil sunflower seeds”.   The birds and other animals eat out of your hand.     Don’t leave seeds on the ground and wait until all seeds are consumed.    If you leave food or seeds on the ground, you are inviting or feeding mice or other vermin that are not your beautiful birds.  Just saying.

Enjoy your stay at the wildlife sanctuary.    It is fun, educational and a wonderfully, calming experience.

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Try these… Camping in the USA…

Some of the places to camp out in the USA that are safe, and or civilized are the campsites at Hither Hills State Park.   You need to reserve at least nine months in advance for these camping spaces.  Yes, they are beautiful!  You can camp out less than 20 feet from the ocean, and there are tables, concrete pads under the picnic tables, a camp store that has everything you need, a tiny playground, outdoor showers and the store even sells some clothing.      

There’s Hecksher State Park at the end of Long Island there and that’s okay .  Specialty here?   If you want to see deer, this is the place.   Hecksher is nicknamed the “home of the white-tailed deer’.    MOSQUITOES!    Don’t even think of camping out here unless you bring the spray or wipe-on insect repellent.   My first trip there, within minutes, I had bites all over both arms.  

Once in a  while, hardly ever lol, you can set up a day-tent in some of the other parks that do not have camping.    But check with the park people first. 

I’ve camped out in Pennsylvania state parks — love those for the wilderness-type camping.   And yes, watch out for bears.     If you go there, check in with the camp hostess and they ill give you the latest news on if there are bears around or not .

YES! wear something ORANGE!   In some Pennsylvania state parks they permit hunting, and you don’t want to be mistaken for a bear or whatever.        

The feature-picture was taken either at Captree State Park or at Hither Hills State Park. 

Fishing?    Captree is the place.    You can also fish at  the beach (check regulations) wildood State Park in Long Island, New York, USA. 



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San Sebastian, Puerto Rico and Adventures

If I ever am going to go off the mainland of the USA, it probably would be to San Sebastian, Puerto Rico. 

I’ve never been there, though I’ve been invited there many times.     Some of my grandkids have gone there for the summer, or to visit for smaller visits.  And the adventures that I heard of were wonderful.  And the pictures are beautiful!



Yet, most likely, I will not see that in person.     I’m one of those who uses walking, biking, training, or busing when it comes to adventures.   And so many times, I have used the car on adventures.  Been to South Carolina by bus, and North Carolina by train (from South Carolina), and to DC by Amtrak, and to other states by automobile.   Yes, I love boats.  I’ve taken the “C-Line” around Manhattan, and the Ferry from Brooklyn, to Manhattan, NYS, USA.   And yes, I’ve  been in a kayak, been on a paddleboat, and even been in a rowboat.

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Camping Basics

Basic, random ideas for camping out .

  1. First decide what type of camping experience you want to have.  (Ocean, beach camping, wilderness, civilized camping – more amenities, family camping, bike camping, solo camping, or the old “how can you do that”  camping in winter).
  2. Once you decide that, you’ll know which type of tent and what type of equipment you will need to use for your camping experience.
  3. There are some basics  you can bring with you to make any camping experience  a better, easier experience.     Below is the list (take what you need camping and leave the rest).

CAMPING LIST  (beginners and incomplete list)

  • The “gopher” – or the gripper stick.   Use this stick to leave the place as you found it.  You can pick up litter with this and you can get everything off the ground with this stick.
  • Water filter   or fresh water, or camp near a water source .   (If you are camping in the wilderness, remember that if there is a natural water source, like a lake, pond, river etc, most likely there will be wildlife in the area.   Be prepared and be careful.  Never do anything that is not safe for you to do while camping.
  • Dry snacks, raisins, cookies, crackers, chips, and small snacks and foods that do not need cooking.   There you go, you save on bringing less – no cooking, no cooking pots, no washing pots on your trip.  You can bring bananas and fruits.
  • Computer   .  JUST KIDDING.   You really don’t need a computer to go camping.  But it is more fun when you have one.     Okay, that’s not basic.  Maybe that’s “g  l a m ping” .    .
  • Trash containers, plastic bags for clean up. Paper towels or whatever you need.
  • Hiking sticks, canes – really , these help when hiking.
  • Frisbee – game or paper plate holder
  • Tarp – You can make a tent or you can cover a tent with this or you can put this under your tent.
  • If camping in winter, you can use the best sleeping bag that you can afford.   You can get a sleeping bag that is good for 0 degree weather and that’s perfect.
  • Camera ,  Yes, you need a camera or a cellular phone camera to take pictures to document your wonderful camping trip.
  • Strings, cords  – for the tent etc.   Stake the tent down.
  • Good boots or shoes.    Begin with this. Your feet need to be protected and comfortable .    Once you got this covered you are good to go.

Of course, that’s not all you need for camping;  that’s a beginner’s list , just the beginning of the complete camping list of supplies and equipment.

Leave a note with your camping questions.   We  will answer any and all camping questions.

NOTE:  Important note about hiking in the woods: 

If you are going into ANY wooded area, pack a survival kit which has vital survival items,  an emergency blanket, matches or lighters, string or cord, gloves, hat, water container, water purification tablets or filter.   

There have been too many instances of ordinary people just taking a day hike into a park or woods and they couldn’t survive after they got lost .  They never intended to get lost, not many people do.  And after they were lost, they had no ‘back up’ and no emergency kit to help save their lives.    (TELL someone where you are going, leave a map or direct location, and when possible, carry a GPS system and or a cellular phone with gps).  

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Birds, Stills & Videos

Birds and Bird Photography… there are all different kinds in this world.    Personally, I don’t do much technologically perfect photography but rather , due to circumstances beyond my control , I  focus on framing, and on the message rather than on the science of taking the pictures.  So here goes, my imperfections , however I love all these pictures because I love birds, and these are real. 

The nature , camping, bird videos are at my  videography site here  (Also, the cheese auction video and others are at this site – check this link )

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Birds Rock!


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For more than thirty years, I’ve taken pictures of birds, throughout many cities in the USA.    Sometimes I stop taking photos of birds and almost always I miss doing that.  So, in the meantime, I post some “oldies” , some birds that I saw a few years ago.  This owl was one of the rescued owls.   And somewhere else in my collection of birds, I have a picture of a rescued bald eagle.  Each and every one of the birds are beautiful, naturally.  You won’t see the  beauty in the picture.  You have to go there and see the birds for yourself.