Na, not in this life. Let’s ‘understand’ the targets (of bullies) first!
A note on the topic of bullies and understanding them:
“It is sad to see that so many articles are favoring the bullies by first seeking to find out their reason for bullying. Society needs to come to the plate and really first handle the important task of making the target of the bully feel safe, protected and heard.
Our society has too much emphasis on making bullies feel “heard” .
Let’s listen to the targets, the victims , first and let the officials, the Deans, the authorities or police handle the bullies. Most seem to forget that most targets are bullied for months or even years before the bullying comes to light . So in a case like that, the target, the victim, the target of the bully really needs to be separated from the bully and the authorities or teachers or those in control of the education systems should take their heads out of the sand and put it on hold a bit as they continue to try to “understand” the bully. I get it that yes, eventually you need to understand the why of it, but not first before putting a space, a distance between the bully and the bully’s target. The school and the officials get it right as they first begin to understand the “target” of the bully rather than trying first to understand the “bully” . There are thousands of people that have had tough lives and yet they don’t resort to bullying. So, as a society, it is not correct to assume that ‘bullies” have a ‘reason’ for bullying. There’s no reason and there are no excuses. This is just another opinion, from a different point of view” . – artfromperry .
In and throughout our school systems and centers there is a theme going on and around. It appears that (some) think that the solution is to understand the bully.
Imagine if you went to court with a murderer — and the victim’s family there — , do you think that trying to “understand” the murderer helps the victims or the targets of the murderer?
Somebody needs to come up with better ideas on handling school and center problems.